Forgiveness means giving up all hope of a better past.
What a beautiful explanation for forgiveness. What happened, has happened. It’s in the past now. There is no changing what transpired. No matter how many times you relive the experience, it doesn’t change. Forgiveness is a realization of this fact and that you can give up on trying to change how it transpired.
It’s like waking up or becoming conscious at the end of a dream. The dream has happened, it might be that a bear chased you up a tree or you fell out of a plane and the feelings raise your heartbeat and shock you awake – and then you can’t let go of what happened! You place yourself back in the path of the bear and pretend there was a taser by your side and you use it to stop the bear. Or, you practice a kick against the bear over and over again until you find the most sensitive spot and then relive the dream applying the perfect kick to the bear in order to keep it from chasing you up the tree.
You can’t change what happened, but you can change how you feel about it right now.
It’s ok to forgive.
It’s ok to be forgiven.
A friend sent me a link to the Greater Good website where I found a couple really nice videos about forgiveness. The one that I’d like to duplicate here is the one titled The Ancient Heart of Forgiveness. It’s 56:56 minutes long and absolutely worth the time.
There are a couple shorter videos on the site that are simply clips of this longer one.
His words are beautiful. His storytelling is masterful. It was just simply perfect for me today.